Believe it or not, men need and crave affection from their
partners. Without it, a serious gaping hole can form and grow in an otherwise decent relationship.
All of us want to feel loved and appreciated; and showing affection is a great way to express these things and more.
The role of affection in a relationship is like icing on the cake. It keeps the two of you close, intimate and forms a deep, trusting bond. If you're looking for a committed relationship, affection is an absolute must.
You may have heard the expression “the object of my affection." What this means is that the "object" (hopefully your man in this case) is on the receiving end of your undivided attention, care, concern, intimate – and sometimes playful or spontaneous - gestures to show him that you love him.
You can tell him you love him, but if you show him, your actions can sometimes speak much louder than words.
You don't have to spend a dime to show your affection for him. Free forms of affection that
are worth much more than money include hand-holding, a warm smile, a back rub, or a hug, just to name a few.
What these affectionate gestures say to your man is that you love him, support him, care for him, and will be there for him. You don't have to say a word to show affection.
Men may show their affection for you by remembering special occasions such as your anniversary or birthday by bringing you beautiful flowers, taking you out to your favorite restaurant or surprising you with tickets to see your favorite band.
Doesn’t it make you feel great when he is showing genuine affection for you? This is
something you can feel on a deep level, and when you return affection, he can feel it, too.
Without affection in the relationship, focus is placed on anything and everything other than him. He may feel neglected and unimportant to you, or that you just don’t want him around. There may also be feelings of distance, coldness, loneliness, emptiness and a lack of
It is so important to show affection to your man. He probably won't come out and ask for it, but will certainly feel it missing from your relationship and begin to crave it. Be aware that if he doesn't get the attention or affection he needs from you, he may begin to look for it elsewhere.
When you are affectionate with your guy, you are telling him that he is important to you. It
makes him feel good, secure and comfortable with the relationship. Affection is like a stamp of approval from you and satisfies an important emotional basic human need.
If you're too busy for him or always put him last on your list, your relationship will suffer. He
will become distant and emotionally detached. This is the beginning of what could snowball into huge intimacy and communication issues, and certainly determine how committed he will be to you.
So, make the time to be affectionate with him. The role of affection in a relationship is like strong glue that can keep the two of you together.
Take the very next opportunity to take your guy by surprise with an unexpected kiss, hug or sexy wink. You'll love the renewed energy a little affection can give to your relationship!