Wouldn't it be great to recapture that time when you just loved to talk with each other? The time when both of you were genuinely interested in what the other had to say, and how cool it was to learn more about each other.
If you are missing the days of “talking the way we used to,” when everything was easy, comfortable and enjoyable, know that it is possible to recapture those great conversations.
What was different when your relationship was new versus where it is now? It was probably easier to make conversation because the two of you were still learning so many new things about each other.
After a while, we all tend to get lazy and take things for granted, right? Until one day, you
wake up and really miss the way things used to be. When you are in a relationship for a while, the newness of the relationship wears off and since you think you know everything about each other, conversation becomes stale and dull. The effort and enthusiasm of making conversation really takes a back seat.
Keep in mind that having someone to talk to is a basic emotional human desire. Being able to share your thoughts, dreams and just knowing that someone cares enough about you to
actually listen to something you say feels good. It makes us feel important.
The key to getting back to that time when your conversations were meaningful and even fun requires some work. First of all, you have to make the time to talk to each other. Make the time to really have a great chat without arguing or pointing out any faults in the other person.
One great way to spark an interesting conversation is to ask about something from your man's past. An example would be something like what his favorite subject was in school, or the best birthday gift he ever got. You can bring up something that may remind him of something really cool from his younger days, and at the same time, you'll be learning something new about him.
Even if you think you know absolutely everything about each other, there are questions you can ask that will always reveal something you didn't know. Another added bonus to this type of conversation is that while your guy is telling you his story, you can get great ideas for future birthday or anniversary gifts. If you pick up clues about things he’s really passionate about, you can surprise him with some really thoughtful gifts down the road. He’ll notice.
The ability to have frequent and productive conversations with each other is vital to long-term success in any relationship. Think about it. You wouldn't be together at all if you didn't talk to each other!
Don’t be fooled into thinking that meaningful conversations aren't important to continue no matter how long you've been together. If you can put yourself back into that mindset you had when you first got together, you'll probably find this process a lot easier and a lot more fun.
You might think that talking is more of a concern of women than men. This really isn’t the
case. Even if your guy is not much of a talker, then it’s really important for you to tune in when he does attempt to open up to you.
Make sure you aren't goggling something on the internet or watching TV (or vice versa) when you are working on re-connecting or staying emotionally connected through conversation. Don’t just keep saying, “Uh huh,” repeatedly like you’re listening when you’re really not.
Lose the distractions and give him your complete focus and attention. Let him talk without
interruption. Let him know he can trust you with whatever it is he tells you without being made to feel stupid or that his take on things is wrong because it isn't what you think.
Just let the conversation flow and keep an open mind.
Talking to each other is so very important in order to keep connected and grow closer. Working on “talking the way we used to” will keep you close and bring back those great
feelings you used to get when you first got together.
There are so many things that keep us all so busy during each and every day. It's easy to say you'll talk "tomorrow" or when your schedule calms down or whatever else you're putting ahead of your relationship. You don't want to be obsessive or forcing your man to talk when he's just not into it, but when the opportunity presents itself, jump on it.
Make it a priority to learn something new about him every week. In this way, your
conversations will stop being boring and can be interesting once again. Plus, you’ll be strengthening that all-important emotional bond with each other, which is one of the basic
requirements needed for a healthy, committed relationship.